{"id":10366,"date":"2023-11-05T07:03:11","date_gmt":"2023-11-05T07:03:11","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.sebpalmer.com\/blog\/?p=10366"},"modified":"2023-11-05T08:30:16","modified_gmt":"2023-11-05T08:30:16","slug":"shit-dad-ae-etc","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.sebpalmer.com\/blog\/?p=10366","title":{"rendered":"SHiT: Dad, A&E, etc."},"content":{"rendered":"\n
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Dad goes to A&E, again.<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

My dad, poor fucked up ol\u2019 sod that he is, only just got back from a Papworth Hospital sleep clinic today (well, technically yesterday).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Teresa and I wanted to go see him\/the Palmer family, as I was delivering for Amazon\/Morrisons that evening. But for various reasons that idea fell through. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Dad was playing his martyred paranoiac role, whether in response to this – us not visiting them after all – or other stuff (his relations with family at home have been suffering, unsurprisingly), I\u2019m not sure. So in the end I decided I\u2019d pop round briefly, on my own, after work. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

And what a fucking nightmare that turned into. By the time I\u2019d arrived, he\u2019d drunk most – one and a half – of two bottles of white wine. And when I arrived, or rather just after, he came staggering down the stairs, moaning and spitting\/drooling. A truly horrific sight. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Turns out he\u2019s only tried to drink some oil of feckin\u2019 cloves! <\/p>\n\n\n\n

I knew this was bad. But I googled it, to check. Sure enough: if ingested, it\u2019s toxic, get medical help urgently. So, I rang 111; a totally and utterly useless waste of time. After over twenty minutes queuing no one had even picked up my call. So I decided to ring 999. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

That was another saga in itself. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

God help our poor NHS*, hacked to pieces and starved to death by disaster capitalist Tories, till it\u2019s the shambolic mess we now have to deal with. And even so, it remains a treasure we\u2019ll be utter fools to lose (but look at Brexit; we are <\/em>prize fools).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We got a call back from a paramedic. What a joke and waste of time that<\/em> was! Just reiterating what my first call had already established. And they insisted on quizzing dad, despite him being so fucked up. Do they do \u201820 questions\u2019 with mashed up road-crash casualties. \u2018Which of your limbs is missing, sir?\u2019 Fucking insane!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Anyway, about an hour later an ambulance arrives. And over the next hour or so they examine dad, and, eventually, we persuade him to go in the ambulance to A&E. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

He hates going to hospital, esp\u2019 A&E. And I can totally<\/em> understand and sympathise. You\u2019re very ill, and you\u2019re left, unattended, in the seven circles of Hell, for many, many hours, along with loads of other hapless paupers. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

After my first suicide attempt, several months back, I had a horrible visit to Peterborough A&E: seven hours waiting! And then, when you do finally see someone, you wonder why you bothered going at all. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

I wanted to feel that I\u2019d done something good: visiting dad. And then when it all went weird and horrible, trying to look after him. But I\u2019m not sure if I might not\u2019ve helped trigger the whole sorry episode. A fear that fills me with guilt and horror. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Guilt and horror. Dad\u2019s territory. Pure 100% charcoal black negativity. It\u2019s so corrosive and destructive!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And there I am, telling dad he needs to change how he responds. Stop drinking, and think positive. First and foremost, quit the boozing. So what do I do en-route home? Stop for a pint. And things go down hill from there, for me now, as well as dad. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

* As a devout atheist that\u2019s tantamount to saying \u2018we\u2019re screwed\u2019. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

My dad, poor fucked up ol\u2019 sod that he is, only just got back from a Papworth Hospital sleep clinic today (well, technically yesterday). Teresa and I wanted to go see him\/the Palmer family, as I was delivering for Amazon\/Morrisons that evening. But for various reasons that idea fell through. Dad was playing his martyred … <\/p>\n

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